Wednesday, August 7, 2013
All 4 of Us
Farmie and I met with the birth mom and dad yesterday afternoon. Since I was able to do a lot of snooping :) on FB I kind of had an idea of what to expect. The dad was stoned when he got there. His eyes were very blood shot and by the end of our meeting he looked like he had sobered up a little. Farmie didn't notice. He's never been exposed to people doing drugs so he didn't think anything of it at all.
The conversation was easy and Farmie is a talker so he was his usual entertaining self. The birth dad is just really laid back, kind of a slacker. He works a minimum wage job that he's been at for 6 years and doesn't have any aspirations to do more. He's a very talented musician and enjoys that, but I think his dreams of becoming a rockstar didn't happen and now he's just settled into something that is easy. He has blue eyes, dark hair and is Farmie's height. He has a nice smile and is lean.
The birth mom is adorable and I love her. She said that she's been exhausted lately and has been sleeping constantly. I just want her safe, well fed and taken care of. As we were leaving I gave her a big bag of clothes that she can wear since her regular clothes aren't fitting. I'm glad that someone will get to use my maternity clothes stash. When we were leaving I told her to let us know about the Dr's appointment. She's still kind of stalling on that one. I don't blame her. I'm sure it's a very painful step for her. Having done this multiple times she knows what to expect and I'm sure that going to the Dr will bring back some painful memories for her.
I texted her a few hours after we met telling her how nice it was to finally meet the birth dad. She said that they both really liked Farmie. I was relieved. Every meeting I'm so concerned that I/we will say something to offend them. I know the chances of that happening are very slim, but I'm always worried. This will be a long wait for me and I will need to exercise a lot of patience.